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The following are a few examples of statements I commonly hear when I meet with couples who are experiencing conflict: “I have already apologized more times than I can count.” “I tried to explain to him that I don’t mean to be insensitive.” “I told her how horrible I felt for doing that.” “I keep saying I love you, but...[ read more ]

Not too long ago, virtual therapy wasn’t something you heard much about. Therapy and the need for it, in general, isn’t talked about enough. But as we live alongside Covid 19, the need for therapy continues to rise, and with it the necessity of virtual therapy.    Covid and other health reasons aside (avoiding exposure, limiting contact with others, etc),...[ read more ]

How can styles of attachment lead to toxic patterns of relationships and breaking the generational cycles to achieve love and connection Attachment patterns are passed down from one generation to the next. Children learn how to connect from parents and caregivers, and they in turn teach the next generation. Your attachment history plays a crucial role in determining how you relate in adult...[ read more ]

Attachment styles are learned behaviors and stem from psychological research on caregiving, childhood attachments, and how these styles develop into adult attachment with loved ones including peers, parents, partners, co-workers, and children. Attachment styles can impact any interpersonal relationship based on the psychology of needs being met, neglected, overlyprotective, or the “parentified” child. Below are descriptors of the four styles...[ read more ]

Maintaining a Healthy Relationship During the Holidays   It’s the most wonderful time of the year…   It’s also, for many, the most stressful time of the year. And even if you love the holidays, chances are, there are a few stressful moments where you find yourself questioning what, exactly, you’ve gotten yourself into. With stress, comes strain, and with...[ read more ]

What inspired you to pursue a career as a therapist? For as long as I can remember I have felt an incredible sense of honor when the people in my life have trusted me with their thoughts, feelings, and parts of their inner world that they may not share with everyone else. Similarly, I have felt such gratitude to the...[ read more ]

Relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives, so when we face challenges in our marriage or relationship it has a significant impact on each partner's overall health and well-being. Research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must learn to manage conflict, create ways to support one another and become better friends. This might seem...[ read more ]

Whether you’re married, engaged, or dating, chances are, you’ve experienced conflict in your relationship. Maybe you don’t see eye to eye on everything, or maybe one of you is more sensitive than the other. Maybe you can’t agree on basic things like how to spend money, who’s family to spend holidays with, or when to move your relationship to the...[ read more ]

What is the Difference and How do I Choose Which Couples Therapy is the Best Fit?    By: Justine Devlin Ph.D.  When making the important decision to engage in couples or marriage therapy, one can be overwhelmed by the variety of therapies available and it can be difficult to decipher which type of therapy is most convergent with your desired goals...[ read more ]

“Couples Wait an Average of Six Years of Being Unhappy with Their Relationship Before Getting Help” –John Gottman By: Justine Devlin Ph.D. Relationships can be challenging and the idea of couples therapy can be daunting and perceived as threatening in some instances when the idea is brought to the attention of a partner or spouse. Most relationships encounter speed bumps...[ read more ]